Words are powerful. It's often said that you don't change someone’s mind in the middle of a debate, but afterwards, upon reflection, our ideas and what we believe can shift. Speaking to people is often more useful than writing them a text or an email, but a handwritten letter can often transform the everyday words … Continue reading They’re Just Words
Things have been fairly tough for me recently. I mean, I am writing this on my 31st birthday, at the end of my tether with my children and feeling down about the fact that I have to go to work tomorrow to a job that I am really not enjoying right now. I know these … Continue reading Doubting the doubt…
This week’s post is super short. I just want to let you know that we have opened a Patreon page for people who want to support the blog and podcast. It's fair to say that running all of this isn't free, but regardless of whether people do or do not give via Patreon, we will … Continue reading We have a Patreon
It happens all the time. I tell someone that I don't think there is enough evidence to prove the existence of God, and they claim that I have no basis for morality, love, purpose or hope. Pick any positive emotive emphases and it is taken away from you by a Christian because they can't understand … Continue reading No Basis
When I first started writing this blog, it was just my wife and me who knew that I had seen my faith begin to unravel. The panic, fear and depression were vast, and I really didn't think I could ever find the nerve to tell those I call friends, and those I call family. A … Continue reading Anyone can know
It was one of the first things I decided on in my blogging journey, I spent a while going through a few options and found myself loving it very quickly. Plus, when you are trying to settle on a name that expresses what your blog is about, you need to make sure it is short, … Continue reading Why – When Belief Dies?
I have had a few comments about my experience of moving out of faith that has essentially been, 'So, what is the big deal?'. When this has happened online, it's usually fine and I find it really helpful as a tool to remind myself that I am a minority, having spent years preparing for ministry … Continue reading So, what is the big deal?
I wrote a blog post a few months ago called Serve or Lie - it can be found here. Since then I have been telling more and more people about my deconversion, I have been doing this slowly and through it, I have been preparing for my blog to go live in a month (which … Continue reading Serve or Leave (or Love)
I was introduced to The Clergy Project (TCP) a few months ago and have been on the journey of joining ever since. Finally, last week I was accepted as a member and am now live on their forums. TCP is an online community of religious leaders, all of whom have lost their faith. They might … Continue reading The Clergy Project
Over the last few weeks, as I have been preparing to leave the Christian place of work that I have been at for the last four and a half years, and so I have been telling a few more people that I have lost my faith. There have been some very hard conversations. Telling those … Continue reading Hard Conversations